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Monday, 24 March 2008
Of Governors and Call Girls

Theodore Dalrymple writes at NR (subscription):
No doubt it signifies a mixture of moral frivolity and profound lack of sexual imagination, but one of the first questions that occurred to me when I read of Gov. Eliot Spitzer’s involvement with a high-class (or perhaps I should say expensive) prostitution ring was: What acts does a woman perform to be worth $3,000 per hour, compared with one who charges “only” $1,000?
Of course, I have long realized that there is a hierarchy among prostitutes, as there is in all professions. My first patient with tertiary syphilis, for example, was an old prostitute, impoverished, raddled, and toothless, who still plied her trade on waste ground for the price of a cigarette. Her pimp was also her husband, and her cries of despair when he abandoned her still ring in my mind’s ear. I have never encountered desolation deeper than hers.
Another of my patients was a smartly dressed black woman whom I initially took to be a business executive. She was a dominatrix. She had her own website and flew around the world flogging the prominent of many nations. She was particularly proud of her connection, if that is the word I seek, with a senior judge in one of the southern states of the U.S. She had a large house and an expensive car and was proud of her success. It was skilled work, after all, and she provided value for money, or else her clients would not have retained her services. Many of them, indeed, were in love with her. She was so amusing that I could not condemn her, even in my heart.
This reminds me that prostitutes in literature have generally been treated kindly. No literary intellectual ever won his spurs by denouncing what everyone else had already denounced with pursed lips and a tut-tut. We do not think of Mistress Quickly and Doll Tearsheet as wicked, but rather as good-time girls with hearts of gold. Maupassant’s stories favor prostitutes over their respectable, bourgeois clients. In Russian literature, fallen women serve to illustrate the possibility and power of redemption (and the generosity of authors). The demand for paid sex has generally been more severely condemned in literature than the supply.
One might have supposed that in a relatively liberal sexual environment such as ours, the demand for prostitution would decline, but that does not seem to have happened. This suggests that raw, biological frustration of the sex drive is not at the root of the demand. Appetites not only grow with feeding, but diversify with it. The limits or boundaries of licit and illicit change, but the demand for the illicit remains constant...
What of the supply — that is to say, of the prostitutes? Why do they become prostitutes? If there were no necessitous women in the world, would prostitution survive?
It would. Although middle-class sentimentalists like to think that all prostitutes are driven to the profession as snowflakes before the storm, with absolutely no choice in the matter (because no one would do voluntarily what prostitutes do), a moment’s reflection shows that this cannot be so. For even if some young women are brought into Europe from Africa and Latin America and forced into sexual slavery, the fact remains that most prostitutes were not forced by circumstances but chose voluntarily to ply this particular trade. No one’s circumstances are so dire that they lead to prostitution as surely as life leads to death; if desperate circumstances inexorably made prostitutes, after all, we would have more prostitutes rather than fewer...
I have discussed this matter with quite a few prostitutes in my clinic, and even those who have not studied moral philosophy have been able to justify their ways to me, if not to God, with plausible and even sophisticated arguments. They would not have been prostitutes, they said, if there had been no demand for prostitutes; and many of their customers, perhaps even most, were drawn from the supposedly respectable portions of society. From what standpoint, then, did society look down on them? ...
For Mr. Spitzer, I suspect, they would have had nothing but contempt: a stern moralist who was no better than the pathetic traveling salesman who wants a bit of furtive fun, or sexual release, with a rather less expensive prostitute on his nights away from his wife.
“You men!” says Sadie Thompson at the end of Somerset Maugham’s great story “Rain,” about a Protestant missionary seduced by a prostitute in the South Sea. “You filthy, dirty pigs! You’re all the same, all of you.” The prostitutes would agree with her: For them, Mr. Spitzer would be the exact moral equivalent of the missionary Davidson, who is seduced by Sadie Thompson while he tries to convert her to virtue, and then kills himself by cutting his throat in the tide. He, like Mr. Spitzer, did not live up to his own standards because, in the jaundiced view of the profession, no man ever does.
Besides, asked the prostitutes, in what way is it worse to sell one’s body than to sell one’s soul? How many people have never done something they knew to be wrong, merely to continue in employment? How many women, not considered prostitutes, have let the material prospects of their suitors affect their decisions to marry them?
All this rationalization, however, founders on one simple question: Would you, I asked them, want your daughters to follow in your footsteps, even if they could earn a lot of money by doing so? Not a single one has ever replied yes to that question; all were vehemently against.
We can call prostitutes sex workers, and prostitution the sex industry, but the oldest profession is also the oldest subject of opprobrium. I shall never forget the immortally distasteful words of a 15-year-old patient of mine, who was very easy with her sexual favors, and who may very well one day have decided to do for money what for the moment she did for fun. “My mum,” she said, “calls me a slut. But I’m good at what I do.”

Posted on 03/24/2008 9:08 PM by Rebecca Bynum
Comments
25 Mar 2008
Laurie
....and the point is? A nice ramble with some interesting comments, but is there an opinion in there somewhere? For me the interesting thing is why we are interested in the first place. Since passing through puberty some considerable time ago I have assumed that there is a certain class of men who use sex to maintain their usually over inflated egos. That these types quite often end up in positions of power is as predictable as day following night.
The most rational response, since their sexual activities are not related to their effectiveness, is to do what has been the accepted approach for most of history...ignore it ! Hypocrisy? Well yes, but why not? The only thing worse than a hypocrite being the kind of obsessive incapable of hypocrisy.
25 Mar 2008
Esmerelda Weatherwax
It has given you food for thought, and sometimes that's an end in itself. In my opinion.
28 Mar 2008
Amy
Mr. Dalrymple is a bit too gullible in believing how prostitutes characterize why they are in their profession. As an ex-prostitute myself, I was forced into the profession by violent pimps. Most women are, although drug addiction leads some to it. Years and years of similar trauma made such things very hard to talk about.
I don't know that I would have felt OK talking about it with a man, even if he was my doctor. I do know that the horrible degradation and marginalization, as well as people's misguided fantasies about a hooker's life made it hard to find help to get out of what is euphemistically called "the business."
It is a life of terrible hardship. I am now happily married for 10 years, and in general a big fan of Dalrymple's writings.
One big obstacle many women have to leaving prostitution is that many publicly funded agencies supposedly in existence to 'help' the women are actually run by madams and pimps. There was a doctor in NYC testing prostitutes for AIDS, and her organization also supposedly 'helped' the women by handing out condoms (of course) and helping them get social security numbers, etc. The operation was run out a van driven by a pornography writer and a madam and pimp. I told the doctor in question about this, and how it was destructive, and she didn't see anything wrong.
Thank god for the international attention on human trafficking recently. The lives of the trafficked and the citizen prostitutes are not all that different.
I had pimps keep me in locked rooms, except when I could work for them, etc.
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